Stop Trying Too Hard

Described below are the signs you are trying too hard to be socially accepted. Trying too hard can sometimes backfire.

Apology:

At times, we try to accommodate the needs of our friends, too much. I especially dislike it when a person apologizes to me when the situation requires no apology. For instance, when I ask a person out. He/She would reply: "Sorry, can't make it". You need not feel sorry for everything in life. Apology is a sacred practice to reconciliation and it's becoming a cliche.

Probing:

When your friends refuse to speak up, don't probe. I tend to bottle up my feelings and I feel uneasy when someone forces me to share my problems. Many people are like that too. Learn to read cues and respect your friends. It's a free country.

Pleasing Others:

You suspected that you've offended a person. Don't laugh at his/her jokes even if it's not funny cos' the person can see through you are trying to gain favor. A big turn off. Find such situation familiar? Because most of us have been living a life trying to please others, TOO MUCH. Start living by stop worrying about the feelings of others towards you. Ignoring how others see you portrays a certain charisma.

Not Being Yourself:

You behave differently in front of different groups of people. You are trying hard to display an inconsistent personality. With one group of friends, you show them that you are a lecher who gloats over boobs. With another group of friends, you let them know you respect girls. Be consistent with your behavior. If you are a lustful bastard, be like that when you are with all friends and genders. If they cannot accept you, they just have to accept the fact that you have a truthful nature.


And don't try too hard to not try too hard,
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